It's no secret that I'm in therapy. But I desperately hope that my children won't need it. Some days? I think I'll be cause of their therapy.
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| Violet August 2004 |
Like on Saturday. Violet has been having a really hard time coping with Sarah having a birthday and getting so much attention. We've been dealing pretty well, I think. Lots of talking, lots of 'how do you feel?' and 'how do you think Sarah would feel if ....' and 'how would you feel if Sarah or John did . . . ' But on Saturday night I got fed up.
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Sarah was looking at something, totally unrelated to her birthday, but Violet could not let her be. She started in on, "Let me show you how to do something really cool. Something you've never ever seen before." I redirected. She maneuvered herself right back. My husband gave Sarah attention for something, while I was paying attention to Violet mind you, and Violet ran away from me to get in between Sarah and Dad. gaaah. At this point I pulled Violet away from everyone, got down eye to eye with her.
"What is going on?"
"I dunno."
"Do you have to steal the attention from Sarah?"
"I dunno."
*eyes rolling, huffing, toe tapping* and she's eyeing my husband and Sarah, just waiting to jump back into the center. It's like everything has to revolve around her. Has to.
"Violet. Everything does not revolve around you."
*huff* *eye roll*
"Violet. It doesn't. Do you know how I know?"
*shakes head* *rolls eyes* (those eyes are so.going.to.roll.someday.)
I leaned in real close and whispered.
"I know because it revolves around ME. Go play."
*sigh* What do you think therapy will run in ten years? $200 an hour?
BwaHaHaa! I wasn't expecting that. Hilarious.
ReplyDeleteMy boys are 4 years apart and they have some major sibling rivalry going on all.the.time. Drives me nuts! Lucily, their birthdays are only one day apart so when they celebrate together.
I should really read over my comments before I hit "post". I always spot the typos AFTERwards!
ReplyDeleteDarn right everything revolves around mom...wait...
ReplyDeleteBwahahaha!! That is a great mom story.
ReplyDeleteLove it. Didn't expect that!
ReplyDeleteOMG, that response was hilarious! Go Mom!!
ReplyDelete-Karen
That's a fantastic response! Love it.
ReplyDeleteOh Violet, how I wish I could meet this ball of vivaciousness.
ReplyDeleteYou know, she probably thought on that all night. Like, "What did Mommy mean by that?" lol.
That is too funny. But. I don't think she believes that for a second :)
ReplyDeleteso who is the reason YOU need therapy? Do I want to know? Nah.
ReplyDeleteI just learned about people- assuming they were/are adults- in my Communication and Conflict Management course. When you run into people who say "I don't know all the time," they're classified as "clams" or "brick walls"...people who literally don't open up to let you work the problem out. According to my professor, you're supposed to ask if "Well, if you DID know, what would you do/how would you feel?" ...I just don't know if that'll work on this little piece of work (and I mean that in the best possible way). She's definitely wanting attention but maybe doesn't know how to ask for it the right way, so she acts out. Maaaaaaybe try spending some individual time with her and each child and do something they want to do. I know with kids this young it may not be realistic but you never know. It's worth a try, right?
ReplyDeleteand I agree with KAren...the last response was hilarious. Better watch out, though...Violet's learning that and it might backfire all over you one of these days. *wags finger* :P :D
LOL! I was definitly not expecting that!
ReplyDeleteSnort!
ReplyDeleteI love that sort of response!
I do that sort of thing to my children all the time. I am not in therapy, but I probably should be. I'll just set aside the money I would have used for therapy and let my daughters use it for theirs.
I'm a giver that way.
Snort!